Friendship
I have thought a lot about that word the past few months. Not so much what it means but how I have tried to make a friend, then develop it or kept it going. I think it boils down to this: I see someone I would like to get to know. They have qualities I admire or character traits that I wish I had or seem to be pretty well put together, you know, they have a handle on life. People like them, they seem happy and confident. Then I try to talk to them. Be interested in their life. But I don't think I put that plan into action in high school.
My high school 40 year reunion is coming up in a week or so. I have received a few invites via Facebook and my high school alumni web page. But I am not going. I have never really kept in touch with anyone from school. The one good friend I had moved and never wrote to me. I had other friends but they were all in the church and lived in about a 20-30 mile radius of my home. A couple of those I kept in touch with for years. But no one in high school.
One of my very best friends is now in heaven. We grew up together and she joined the church, but she didn't go to my school. Even though we lived at opposite ends of the town and went to different schools, we went and did something every weekend. Especially when we started driving. So much fun. After we each got married, we kept in touch but lived farther away. I moved back to my hometown, she was still here and we had kids the same age who played together. She died at the age of 46. I miss her terribly.
I think I got off course there.... sorry .... anyway...
I have been reviewing How I Make Friends. My social base is my church. I only say hello to my neighbors when we are out gardening, walking past to get the mail and --- no, that is about it. I don't work at a "job". but I do sew for other people. I don't do anything in the community. No good excuses. I would like to but am a bit shy about it. All of us have a shy factor.
At church. I tend to become friends with those that I serve with in a calling, but those change, so, friends change. However, I do have a couple of friends in my church that I do things with. Lunch. Movies. Temple. Sewing dilemmas. Dipping chocolate. Preserving foods. And sometimes when my car is down, they graciously take me places I need to go. Boy, do I have a lot of fun!!!
So, that got me to start thinking about how I make friends (See paragraph one) and why I don't have any from high school. If I want to make a friend, I have to work at it. I have to put myself out there and try to talk to them. Get to know them. What I have found is that as friendly as I am, there are still those who do not want to know me. Huh. And I thought everyone wanted to be my friend! Ah, well.
I have made some new friends this past year or so (AT CHURCH) and gotten closer to a few more. I know that I have friends from years ago that if I called them to talk, it would take off from when we were close. So, maybe I do have a lot of friends. Mostly from church. I wonder if it is too late . . . . Maybe I will revisit the alumni web page. And maybe their bodies have changed a lot too and I do not mean just the gray hair! LOL!!
My challenge: get out there and make or renew ONE friendship this week. I know, it is a short time. But you have a short attention span anyway. You probably didn't even read this whole thing. That's okay. Neither did I.
Happy Friendshipping!
(*j*) Becky
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